My Mom has always told me not to regret, that every choice I made at the time, reflects a wealth of thought and analysis that was the best decision I could make based on who I was then and the information I had at the time. If I were in the same place, with the same information, I would make the same choice all over again. Hindsight is clearer but the decisions we make don't have the benefit of hindsight, so we need to accept them for what they are: the best decisions we could make then.
I've grown up with that idea. And in many ways I'm very grateful that my Mom chose to impart that pearl of wisdom to me at a very young age, based on her own life experiences. And I'm grateful that I was in the space to hear it when she offered it up!
If I hadn't let someone sway me into that computer programming course, I'd never be tech savvy enough for blogging and we wouldn't be having this conversation.
I would not be married to an amazing husband now if I hadn't gaffed a bit (or a lot) with a few of the men in my past. Hell, I probably wouldn't have given Mr Faye the time of day if I hadn't been in the exact head space I was in at the time we met. If I hadn't been a bit jaded enough to just throw all the cards on the table on the first date and do all the things that you're not supposed to do, I probably wouldn't have caught his attention and reached that part of him that was looking to break out of the conservative Catholic world he grew up in.And my life would have been so different and I wouldn't be here now, reveling in the beauty and joy that surrounds me.
I don't know... I think that instead of regretting some of our past decisions, we should be grateful for the lessons and the experiences they've brought into our lives in the long run. Even if they seem awful. Oh, I'm not trying to say that the mistakes weren't mistakes, just that they were a part of our growing process and even in the smallest way, they've shaped who we've become in some positive ways.
After all, to err is human, but to accept this gracefully and make the most of those mistakes, now that is divine!