What do you look for in a spiritual teacher? What would make someone your ideal teacher? Have you ever found that there is a difference between what you think your ideal teacher is and what that teacher turns out to actually be like? Or are you struggling to find a teacher and how are you dealing with that?
I find that I am looking for a rather complicated blend in my ideal teacher and I suspect that it might be a bit of a tall order! I want someone who will help me be inspired to learn, grow, and keep doing the work, but at the same time, I truly believe that a good teacher, as Kahlil Gibran wrote, "leads you to the threshold of your own mind" awakening that which is already in you by showing you the door that will lead you to self-discovery.
What can I say, I'm a complicated student.
I want a teacher I can trust, who is both a friend but also a mentor and knows how to walk the divide between the 2. I don't believe that a teacher should be a best friend, but rather, should be someone who sees you clearly and maintains just enough distance for you to always be able to learn from them. Sometimes I think that in becoming too close we shatter the veil that makes it possible for us to learn constructively from another, without begrudging the other person's flaws. Because let's face it, we all have them and sometimes it's hard to see our friends clearly or take their advice when we cannot see past their own baggage.
So yeah, it's a fine line between being a friend and being a teacher, but a good teacher, in my opinion, always stays a teacher first. An approachable teacher, but a teacher.