This morning I left a little token Valentine's Day gift for Mr Faye (a card and a big Hershey's kiss). It was nothing big. Just a little small gesture to say, hi, I see you and love you. Neither one of us is particularly big on the big gestures or Valentine's Day.
Probably because I'm a bit of a Scrooge about the day as I feel like it's a Hallmark Holiday. Maybe I spent too many years single to appreciate it. Or maybe I just feel like love should be celebrated every day instead of one particular day.
This year though, with Baby Faye taking over our day to day life, I thought that the little gesture was a good idea in the grand scheme of taking care of our partnership. I know that kids have a way of taking front and center, to the point that couples often lose sight of each other in the midst of the day to day of raising children. It's important to me that we don't do this as a couple, so I suspect I might start taking back holidays like Valentine's Day because they are a way to remember to see your partner.
And Mr Faye? Well he was actually quite touched. Surprisingly so. He was squishy all morning, with little love emails and facebook messages. I had no idea it would mean so much to him. And it makes me realize that the little gestures, even though I don't do them nearly often enough, are special and important because they can make your partner feel seen. Especially when you have a smushy one like I do.
So Valentine's Day, I guess I'm going to make my peace with you and be less Scroogey about the day in general.