Wednesday, November 19, 2014

scrapbooking conundrum

Scrapbooking post here.

My partner and I are in a scrapbooking disagreement over what gets recorded and what doesn't get recorded in our family album. I think that we should tell the story and he thinks we should think about whether it's really important to remember certain details 20 years for now.

What do you think? Do you think that even the negative stuff should be included?

For example, the money woes or the frustration over dealing with his parents undermining our parenting? Keeping in mind, of course, that this is something that Baby Faye will one day inherit (should he want it).

My argument is that when he looks back at our life together, he's likely to not realize that there were hard times in his childhood or how said stresses affected us as a family or couple, which I think are important for him to know about  because they might help him as an adult.

But my partner makes a good point when he mentions that talking about the frustrations we have with family isn't exactly helpful to him. And my mom never talked about her frustrations with my grandparents, I only found them out much later in life (well the ones she had with my grandfather, but that said, they weren't exactly a surprise either given his nature). Does it do more damage (even if tucked away from easy viewing) to share these stories?

I think he feels that they would be disrespectful while I think that they would show snippets of real life.

What do you think? Disrespectful or integral part of the story?

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